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04/07/2011

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BettyDuffy

You crack me up. And I'm not sure I've ever thought about how I'm supposed to feel during Lent, so I'm glad you brought it up. I've never particularly enjoyed Lent myself, because it causes you to do one of two things: either sacrifice something, and feel that self mortification which is so painful but leads later to feelings of accomplishment, or freedom, or a deeper sense of Christ's suffering--and feel gratitude-- OR fail at sacrificing, and feel like a chump.

I hate self-mortification, even though it leads to freedom. I hate failure and feeling like a chump even more, but it's the easier way to feel so I'm better acquainted with it.

But I don't think we're obliged to feel sad. It's a solemn time, and a hopeful time, and a time that if we're doing it correctly should bring a a deeper relationship with Christ--which is a cause for rejoicing.

I feel sad though, when I know I'm doing it wrong and yet I don't change, when I haven't stuck with my sacrifices, or I gave up something stupid, or I do the fasting, but not the prayer and almsgiving (or any combo of the three).

I would like some year to have a perfect Lent--whatever that means. But if nothing else, Lent always informs me of my weakness, and my need for a redeemer, which again, since I have one, should make me very glad.

Sarah in Ottawa

I am not sure that I can answer your question, but I totally understand your dislike of sad. I can't read most contemporary fiction for that reason, and I have to avoid many *significant* films for that reason. I hate saying goodbye or any sort of ending, focusing on 'next time'. And Lent isn't my favourite liturgical season, either.

I am not the best catechized Catholic, either, but FWIW: During Lent, I try to focus on why I'm being penitential. He died for me, so I can do things to be closer to him. I can deny myself things, causing some suffering to give me just a taste of what his suffering was.

I may not be doing it right, either. But I think YOU'RE right in not losing sight of the happy ending, either.

AmyRyb

I think sometimes I harden myself to sadness. I purposely avoid watching sad movies or ones full of death and destruction. I sometimes don't let myself think too deeply about problems in the world, because me getting sad about them really isn't going to change anything. I have enough to worry about in my world without adding stress that technically doesn't involve me. Perhaps that makes me self-centered, but I choose to believe that I'm insulating myself from the depression of a sad world. I don't know if this is even anywhere near what you're talking about, but anyway...as for Lent...I am Lutheran, not Catholic, but here's my take. Instead of being sad at Lent, I think it's just about pondering Christ's sacrifice, being in awe of what He gave up. We should be grateful for it, and find self-worth in that fact, that God loves us so much that we were worth it. Not a self-centered worth, mind you, as our greatnesss comes from God Himself, but believing that each of us is truly special. I don't think Lent should be sad, because like you, I know the happy ending. I think it's a time of reflection, appreciation, and inspiration to be a more devoted Christian moving forward--because if Christ could sacrifice for us, we can show devotion to Him. Hope that helps...

Jennifer

I agree with this post one THOUSAND percent!!! Everyone I read is like, "Oh I love Lent," "Lent is the greatest time of the year," "I completely enjoy living without wine and chocolate and peanut butter and all the things that make me go *CHEESE* because I enjoy this sacrifice." And I'm the sinner in the corner (probably sneaking wine AND chocolate AND peanut butter) that's like, "I CAN'T WAIT TIL EASTER ALREADY WHERE'S THAT BUNNY???" :) Apparently I also can't get into the "proper" frame of mind because, in my head, I know that Jesus comes out the other side OK! And the rest of mankind is better because of it! Obviously I hate that he had to go through all of that for us, but being down and sad and ignoring His impending RESURRECTION just doesn't jive with me. I always feel like such a bad Catholic this time of year...

katie

Is it bad that I love Lent for the Friday Fish Frys? As a kid, we almost never went out to eat. But then Lent came along and Friday became the weekly night out for a Fish Fry - complete with potatoe pancakes and applesauce.
Which means Lent was not a very sad time for me. Sorry I'm no help.

Meghan

Maggie, I am not Catholic but I love lent. For some reason I need that enforced sort of simple, sacrificing whatever. So, maybe you could side step the sad aspect and focus on that? Is that OK if you are Catholic? Meghan

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