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I'm 30 years old, married to an IT Guy and a stay-at-home-mom to two spectacularly gorgeous children. While we attend Mass on Sunday mornings, I spend the entirety of the Eucharistic Prayer focused on making sure the baby uses her crayons on the bulletin, not the pew

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The meant-to-be's are the pits. But sometimes I wonder if you can't be religious or faithful without catching a solid case of them. Since everything is supposed to be God's will don't you find yourself trying to parse out what the grand scheme is and how x or y fit in with it? Is there a difference between God's will and something you just make happen yourself and isn't this where the messy 'free will' business comes into play? If you rely solely on the meant to be you live passively but if you pursue too aggressively and fail consistently you're not getting the hint, kind of, maybe. It's a recipe for headache, all of it.


I'm forever ruined by Pooh. I hear "meant to be" in Rabbit's voice, when he's hiding from Pooh... "It's not MEANT to BE!" ... sorry, total tangent to your very deep post!

Um, anyway, to the point,I do what you do, "meant to be" = "Lord willing" . But I have learned that meant to be/Lord willing does not always = the happy outcome I am looking for. Because sometimes God's will is to walk with us through a character building exercise. But there is some reassurance in knowing that if we find ourselves between a rock and a hard place it might not be that we did anything 'wrong' but that it really is God's will for us to be in a position where all we can do is cry out to Him. Which, I realize, is not very related to buying and renting houses. But maybe if you feel "stuck" with a rental house you don't absolutely love, you'll discover it was because there were neighbors He wanted you to meet or a landlord He wanted you to be a light for, or something like that? I dunno. And now this comment is very long. Sorry 'bout that.


What about the possibility that it is "meant to be" for you to not have everything work out all fairy-tale-ish and that there is a lesson there that is "meant" for you to learn.

I'm not trying to rain on the parade nor do I hope for the above outcome. I just think that we only see the "meant to be" things as the things that are smooth and work out all nice and neat and fold up like a top sheet.

Sometimes things fold up like a fitted sheet, but darn would my bed be a mess if I didn't have that fitted sheet - it was meant to be.

I'm pretty sure none of that makes sense. My apologies.

Sarah in Ottawa

I truly think that He has a plan for the big stuff like you and Phillip or with me and Dave (I will have to tell the Sarah and Dave saga one day -- the moment on a bus in Italy where I realized that He might be calling me towards Dave for good...not that I listened at first!). I am less sure about all the little things along the way. I try (and often fail) not to overthink it.


Well, I read a quote by Anne Lamott in which she says, "To those of us who believe, coincidence is just God working behind the scenes." Or words to that effect.

My husband went to college with my brother. He saw me once from across a crowded dining hall; apparently they had a mutual friend who was trying to get him to ask me out. But my (future) husband didn't, because a) he was a senior, I was a freshman, and b) he knew my brother would freak out at the mere thought of me dating a friend of his. He was weird like that.

Eight years later, I put an ad out on a prehistoric version of eHarmony, and the best response I got was from a guy who, after we'd exchanged several emails, said he was pretty sure he'd known my brother at college, and my brother did remember him, and...

So you could say maybe it was meant to be. All I know is when I saw my future husband's picture for the first time, like a bolt from the blue I had a revelation that I was going to marry this man. To be honest at first I didn't find him completely attractive, but I prayed to God and asked Him, if this was His will, then to change my heart and help me love this man. And He did, and I did, and we've been married 11 years now in April.

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